When Love Feels Distant, Help Is Possible
When two people who deeply care for one another find themselves stuck in cycles of disconnection, it can be both painful and confusing. Perhaps you’re frustrated that you can’t seem to get what you need out of a relationship. You may be exhausted from having the same fight over and over again with nothing changing. The closeness you once shared may now feel distant, replaced by frustration, isolation, or silence. Eventually you may feel hopeless that things will ever change.
Research shows that most couples do not consider therapy until they have been unhappy in their marriage for six to seven years. During that time, unresolved conflicts tend to deepen, emotional distance grows, and reactive patterns become more rigid and painful. It’s not uncommon for partners to feel stuck in repetitive arguments, exhausted by the lack of change, or silently grieving the loss of intimacy. Often, couples avoid therapy due to stigma, fear of being judged, or the belief that needing help means the relationship is failing. Whether it’s the same unresolved argument playing out again and again, or the growing fear that emotional intimacy is slipping away, couples therapy provides a structured, compassionate space to reconnect and rebuild. The very fact that you’re seeking help is not a sign of failure – it is a powerful step towards restoration, and often means this relationship still matters.
As a therapist, I work closely with couples who want to move toward healing, even when the path feels uncertain. I am an Associate Licensed Therapist trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). My focus is helping couples impacted by trauma, addiction, or relational betrayal. These wounds often live beneath the surface, showing up in patterns of withdrawal, criticism, defensiveness, or hopelessness. My role is not to judge, but to gently guide both partners toward recognizing how these patterns have developed and how they might begin to step out of them—together.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples is a form of therapy that has been validated as the gold standard for couples counseling by over 30 years of research. This approach moves beyond surface-level conflict and into the core of what drives disconnection—deep emotional needs around safety, attachment, and belonging. We often think we’re arguing about finances or parenting, but underneath those disagreements are the deeper unmet needs and the more vulnerable questions: “Do I matter to you?” “Am I good enough for you?” “Can I trust you to be there for me when I need you?” and “Will you still be here if we disagree?”
EFT provides a map to help couples understand these dynamics and repair the bond that holds them together. When couples begin to recognize their negative cycle and respond to one another with empathy and emotional presence, something powerful happens: trust is restored, connection deepens, and hope returns. When couples feel emotionally safe, change becomes not only possible—but lasting. If you're ready to take the next step toward healing, I'm here to walk with you.